A breakup can always be a though thing
for you. It is usually hard to get over a break up and you will see
that ending a connection is never an easy experience. The most
difficult situation is coping after the breakup. The worst thing
about breakups that they can screw people for a long time. We tend to
carry the emotional baggage from a relationship to relationship. In
order to prevent this happening you should do some things.
First of all, you will have to cut all
contact. You will need time to heal. If you maintain a channel of
communication you may not allow those words to fully close. Deleting
your ex from Facebook can be a great idea. You shouldn`t call your ex
in order to see how they are doing. You shouldn`t try out to be
friends if you still have romantic feelings for each other.
Initiating communication again is a great idea but after a long
period of time.
You will need to accept that the
relationship it`s over. If you think that there is a chance that you
will be back together, than you should remove this from your head.
You will need to stop looking at old pictures, letters and e-mails.
You will also don`t need to try to convince their friends or family
to change their mind. This is considered to be manipulative.
You will need to allow yourself a time
to grieve. You shouldn`t though shut yourself in and wallow in
sadness. Another great idea is to be with people that are closest to
you. You should be spending time with family and friends. Start
exercising is a great idea. If you exercise, the body will release
endorphins that will boost your mood and will help you overcoming
depression. It will also improve your health.
You will also need to take into
consideration to do some productive things. Investing in yourself is
a great thing to do. You shouldn`t go back to them out of loneliness
and guilt. You don`t need to feel that you are a bad person because
of leaving a relationship. Another thing that you have to do will be
to remove your ex off the pedestal. When someone rejects us we tend
to look only on their negative qualities. You should stop comparing
any new romance with them and you should also understand you are not
worthless and you have value.
